I recently went out to eat alone for the first time, I was so anxious about being judged. It turned out to be an amazing experience (and not a single person looked at me)!
Yes! It’s such a waste of mental energy! I’m glad I finally ripped the bandaid off, I’m hoping I’ll be able to enjoy some more solo adventures while at Oxford now!
A lot of people that I know cannot be alone. It’s really because they can’t be alone with their own thoughts. Getting to a place where you are comfortable being alone has huge benefits - more calmness, thoughtfulness, etc. it’s a necessary reset.
Yes! Being comfortable with solitude brings so much peace and clarity. While community is important - we often filter our decisions and words through the people around us without realizing it.
Same, I tell them about my little adventures and they say something along the lines of 'wow, I could never do that'. It's so freeing to be outside but in your space and enjoying it, truly self care to enhance self love.
I’m in love with the phrase, “artist date”! It is so fitting. It’s funny how we become self conscious when we’re alone; but I think anyone who notices us doing something for ourselves wishes they could be confident enough to do the same. That looked like such a fun date & I’m walking away from this feeling inspired 🍰❣️
Nothing has given me more confidence than learning to do things alone. It’s powerful. But it can also be as terrifying as walking across a wooden bridge over a thousand foot canyon. 😆
Other than that, you’re a truly beautiful woman. May God protect you from all evil. And if you’d like, we can follow each other on Instagram! I love to have new friends 💐🫶🏻
I love the idea of taking myself on a date, but I feel like I hit a mental block at some point. Even though no one is actually paying attention to me when I’m out, it still feels like everyone is looking at me, thinking about how alone I am. I really hope I find a way to get past this.
You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s amazing that you’re acknowledging it. Taking small steps, like starting with quiet places and activities you love, can help you build confidence. Remember, everyone is usually caught up in their own worlds <3
I completely agree with you! Maybe there are many people trying to overcome this, just like me. I'm sure there are also more detailed small steps to take—if you'd like to share, I’d definitely read them!
I used to struggle with going out alone because I always felt like I had to talk to someone, but recently, I’ve been able to enjoy walking around by myself. I’ve even started vlogging and talking to myself, lol
I love this idea, I love solo dates myself, like long walks and I recently went to a rooftop cinema, had a lovely pizza and a wine and it felt so empowering even though everyone was closed off and enjoying the film for themselves (we had cute headphones) it felt so nice. I really do want to do more creative and social ones, I'm considering candle making, a group sip and paint and personal fragrance making. Next week I'm going to American comedy night which I'm excited to sit back, relax and laugh together with the rest of the crowd and by the way, your cake ,STUNNING!
I recently went out to eat alone for the first time, I was so anxious about being judged. It turned out to be an amazing experience (and not a single person looked at me)!
Zoe! this is amazing. and isn’t it funny how we often worry about what others think, only to realize they’re too busy enjoying their own meals?
Yes! It’s such a waste of mental energy! I’m glad I finally ripped the bandaid off, I’m hoping I’ll be able to enjoy some more solo adventures while at Oxford now!
A lot of people that I know cannot be alone. It’s really because they can’t be alone with their own thoughts. Getting to a place where you are comfortable being alone has huge benefits - more calmness, thoughtfulness, etc. it’s a necessary reset.
Yes! Being comfortable with solitude brings so much peace and clarity. While community is important - we often filter our decisions and words through the people around us without realizing it.
love this thoughtful perspective!
Same, I tell them about my little adventures and they say something along the lines of 'wow, I could never do that'. It's so freeing to be outside but in your space and enjoying it, truly self care to enhance self love.
I’m in love with the phrase, “artist date”! It is so fitting. It’s funny how we become self conscious when we’re alone; but I think anyone who notices us doing something for ourselves wishes they could be confident enough to do the same. That looked like such a fun date & I’m walking away from this feeling inspired 🍰❣️
Your cake turned out BEAUTIFUL by the way!
soo true - little do we know how much we inspire others when we take unapologetic moments to ourselves !! 🤍 so glad this resonated with you ☺️
Nothing has given me more confidence than learning to do things alone. It’s powerful. But it can also be as terrifying as walking across a wooden bridge over a thousand foot canyon. 😆
It truly can - love the wooden bridge analogy: exhilarating and scary all at once!
Other than that, you’re a truly beautiful woman. May God protect you from all evil. And if you’d like, we can follow each other on Instagram! I love to have new friends 💐🫶🏻
Awww thank you so much, Beyzanur! Yes find me on IG @so_shethought ✨ ☺️
I love the idea of taking myself on a date, but I feel like I hit a mental block at some point. Even though no one is actually paying attention to me when I’m out, it still feels like everyone is looking at me, thinking about how alone I am. I really hope I find a way to get past this.
You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s amazing that you’re acknowledging it. Taking small steps, like starting with quiet places and activities you love, can help you build confidence. Remember, everyone is usually caught up in their own worlds <3
I completely agree with you! Maybe there are many people trying to overcome this, just like me. I'm sure there are also more detailed small steps to take—if you'd like to share, I’d definitely read them!
I agree, sometimes when this happens I just move to a different location and recenter.
I used to struggle with going out alone because I always felt like I had to talk to someone, but recently, I’ve been able to enjoy walking around by myself. I’ve even started vlogging and talking to myself, lol
ooo I love this, idea l love the vlogging idea, talking and laughing to myself is definitely the norm🥲
I love this idea, I love solo dates myself, like long walks and I recently went to a rooftop cinema, had a lovely pizza and a wine and it felt so empowering even though everyone was closed off and enjoying the film for themselves (we had cute headphones) it felt so nice. I really do want to do more creative and social ones, I'm considering candle making, a group sip and paint and personal fragrance making. Next week I'm going to American comedy night which I'm excited to sit back, relax and laugh together with the rest of the crowd and by the way, your cake ,STUNNING!