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dorion's avatar

Love you highlighting auto-dependency right off the bat. The goal isn’t to be independent, never relying on anyone, the goal is to be your own best friend, to get your needs met yourself, with the help of others. Thank you for this soft lens through which to look at adulthood.

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Delaney Langdon's avatar

Thank you dorion! Such a thoughtful comment - love the idea of having a goal to be your own best friend. at the end of the day we always have ourselves

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Carrie's avatar

Even at my youngish-old age I rely on my friends and family to help me navigate adulthood.

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Delaney Langdon's avatar

It’s so important!

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Stella Brown's avatar

this resonates so so deeply- especially when overwhelmed with decision making its so easy to want to step away from it all and revert back to our more childish identities! Thank you for sharing!!

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Delaney Langdon's avatar

thank you my stella!!! <3 yes! when stress piles on ... there’s such a pull to retreat into something simpler and more familiar (which sometimes is the most productive option)

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ACP's avatar

As someone who's been asking "Shouldn’t I have this figured out by now?" since the age of seven, I greatly appreciate the CARES framework.

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Delaney Langdon's avatar

So glad to hear! It's refreshing to remember that our "adultness" is constantly evolving and unique to us

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Sam Rondeau's avatar

It says the poll is closed but I’d be into the interview series!!

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Evan Brown's avatar

The older I get and with every experience I live though I realize the more I know, the less I know. There’s so much to learn—learning is a life long endeavor. That being said, one of my biggest realizations a long time ago is that no one really has it figured out. As a kid I assumed adults knew everything. As an adult, I realize all adults are just older kids and no one knows everything. No one has everything figured out—and I think this is just as scary as it is enlightening. Not knowing is part of what keeps life interesting.

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Delaney Langdon's avatar

It’s so true! Everybody is truly just figuring it out. For me, that’s humbling and inspiring at the same time

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Geoff Langdon's avatar

We all have people we rely on - spouses, partners, friends, family, mentors or just people whose advice on a particular topic makes them a person to call because they have expertise.

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morgan's avatar

this is amazing! seeing so many thoughtful insights from different perspectives and ages was truly inspiring and helpful for me, especially as a freshly 18 year old. i feel more welcomed and less afraid to be a part of ‘adulthood’. thank you for sharing this beautiful piece, and i think it’s really special that you pulled so many different voices for this. very well executed!

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